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["Sage Austin | Eureka! Design" <eureka AT hctc.net>]

Thanks Bob. You know I'm not judging you, I see you as one looking at 
all sides of things trying to engage us all in thinking, which is very 
good. Bev does this too. We all want comfort in this world, but when it 
comes down to it I think most will adapt, and learn from it. I've been 
through some very bad personal times in my life, but I've never let it 
define me, never let myself slip into victim mentality. A few will fall 
into this mire, but I believe most will buck up and get on with life.

I know a lot of people on this list did note vote for Obama, and feel 
that hope is not substance for politics, but it certainly carried me 
through a lot, and I believe it will carry people through future hard 
times. I think of teen suicides and of these recent men who are killing 
their entire families and then themselves because of the economy--it 
always comes down to them feeling things are hopeless. Or in the case of 
the latter also defining themselves by their money and pride.

I think about all the wonderful times in wonderful places with wonderful 
people that have come my way after hard times. It's the adventure, the 
not-knowing that sometimes make life exciting. Like hiking and wondering 
what is around the bend. One thing life has taught me is 99% of the time 
nothing is ever as bad as you think it will be. Even when it is, 
sometimes the change brings something more wonderful that was hiding 
behind that thing, just waiting for a void to fill.

The worst thing about worry is it can do your health in. Potentially it 
could kill you before the feared hordes descend on your homestead. When 
I was very young at the university, I used to worry my boyfriend at the 
time would fall in love with someone else. Jealousy consumed my 
thoughts. One day, on a break, I walked to a store and was so consumed I 
did not see the large tree limb at head height over the sidewalk. I woke 
up in the university hospital with a concussion. The boyfriend was not 
worth keeping, as it turned out, but I learned any bad situation wasn't 
worth banging my head on a tree. I gave up jealousy then and there, and 
attracted more trustworthy people in my life as a result. Hope just 
feels a lot better than worry.

--Sage

bobf wrote:
> Sage , 'a very eloquent and thoughtful post.  You do know when I refernce you 
> all as being 'hard' or 'tough', it is a compliment.  I think what the women 
> on this list do, themselves , is amazing.  But, it makes me smile when 
> someone says something like they compared the upkeep of their beau to the 
> upkeep of a horse   :-)
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> For whatever reason, aside from my poor writing skills, some people have an 
> image of me that isn't close to reality.  But, that is okay; kindness always 
> wins out in the end.
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> When you say "most women" are like you, I don't agree, though.  Most women , as well as most men, just want their comfortable place in the material world -- at least that is my present jaded observation.  That isn't to say that makes anyone good or bad, it is just an observation.  
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> I wish more of you kept blogs.  I read your's and Roxanne's, regularly.
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> I am not as optimistic about people working together as you seem to be, but I hope you are right.  I hope even the least ominous scenario that I am concerned about, never comes to pass.  
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> Anyway, thanks for helping me back to the right side of the path, 
> sage.........bob
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> --- On Wed, 2/4/09, Sage Austin | Eureka! Design <eureka AT hctc.net> wrote:
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> > Bob, you often talk about all of us tough, hard homesteading ladies. I 
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> think most women possess this spirit whether they know it yet or not. 
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> > But I think our hardness does not come from guns, it comes
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> from perseverance and determination as much as it does compassion, humility,  
> and love.
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> > --Sage
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