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[VAN DELL JORDAN <vdjor AT yahoo.com>]

Some were worried that my dad was farming into his
80s, the last year living alone.  Our position was
that if he is kicked by a cow, he would rather go that
way than the way he did which was to sit in a nursing
home the last 4 years apparently not knowing anything.
Van Dell


--- Marie McHarry <mmcharry AT gmail.com> wrote:

> On 6/20/07, Gene GeRue <genegerue AT ruralize.com>
> wrote:
> 
> > I recognize the potential for weakness in carrying
> out my plan to be
> > in charge of my death. I write and speak it to any
> who will read or
> > listen and to myself often, believing that
> reinforcement will thicken
> > neurotransmission lines to the point where there
> is no feasible
> > choice but to follow through.
> >
> My late spouse drew some hard lines about what he
> wanted done to save
> his life (he definitely wasn't into prolonging it
> for the sake of
> sucking air). I was, and am, totally in harmony with
> that approach
> (and my sister who has medical power of attorney for
> me knows my
> feelings). Still, none of it is easy. I know the
> doctors in attendance
> thought I was a hard case, and I surprised myself by
> letting them keep
> him going after his first massive collapse. He
> rallied but his blood
> loss topped by a hospital-acquired infection was too
> much, and I was
> for stopping all measures ahead of the doctors. He
> never wanted to die
> by inches.
> 
> Mom did it right -- a massive bleed in her brain
> (and this in a woman
> who had the arteries of a 20-year-old) that killed
> her before the
> paramedics arrived. It was a shock for us, but good
> for her.
> 
> Much as we want to control our end, we don't.
> 
> Marie
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