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[bob ford <bobford79 AT yahoo.com>]

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bobford


--- On Fri, 10/24/08, Gene GeRue <genegerue AT ruralize.com> wrote:

> From: Gene GeRue <genegerue AT ruralize.com>
> Subject: He thinks he's country; she sounds city
> To: bobford79 AT yahoo.com, homestead AT lists.ibiblio.org
> Date: Friday, October 24, 2008, 5:17 PM
> On Oct 24, 2008, at 3:20 PM, bob ford wrote:
> 
> > Gene, I have a serious question.  Missouri is
> beautiful, water is  
> > plentiful, land is reasonably priced.  But, the land
> that interests  
> > me is always in out-of-the-way places, like Zanoni.
> 
> I need to know more about you before I invite you into the
> Zanoni  
> area. Did I mention that my neighbor-buddy is six-four, as
> are his two  
> strapping sons? Did I mention that we all have big guns and
> know how  
> to use them? We also have dogs.


*****I was using Zanoni as an example :-)



> 
> But I digress. We are really sweet people.
> >
> > What do you do for culture?
> 
> I make my own culture; I read, write, design, garden,
> landscape,  
> build, travel the world via the Internet. Chris and I
> listen to music,  
> watch DVDs and talk to each other. We visit friends and
> relatives and  
> they visit us.
> 
> >  My wife has lived in the city her entire life.  Where
> would she  
> > make friends with other women.
> 
> That is up to her but I would think in places that have
> activities of  
> interest to her.


******That is the problem.  some of her friends here have been her firend for 
thirty years --well there are only two left, and both of them are thinking of 
moving away.  She knows people from Church ( she doesn't attend , but has 
been a member of St. Mary's Basilica for over 50 years.

Her friends here are all through contacts she has made over a lifetime



> 
> >  I can stay alone, if left alone to my own devices,
> and not care.   
> > My wife goes to strabucks, and to the museums.  She is
> not as bad as  
> > many women, but, I just can't see her being happy
> without a group of  
> > women friends with which to do stuff.
> 
> I don't think what you described is bad. She sounds
> like a pretty  
> normal city woman.
> 
> Does she love you enough to follow you to a remote place?



******I don't know what "love" is , Gene.  I'm too old for that concept 
between man and woman,.  We are comfortable together, we are compatable, and 
we care for each other.  Yes, she would move with me.  But, would she be 
happy once she is moved. 


> 
> Do you love her enough to be happy with a few acres within
> a few miles  
> of a town that has what she wants?
> 
> Have the two of you each made your own criteria lists and
> then  
> compared them and talked about what compromises you are
> willing to make?


******She says she wants women friends, and a close enough drive to 
bookstores, libraries, etc.  The second part will not be hard.  The first is 
my worry



> > I own a piece of land near willow springs.  I'm
> looking at another  
> > piece, now.  But, I'm not sure I,m being
> realistic.
> 
> I got paid big money for moving idealistic dreams to
> reality. It is a  
> huge job and usually the wife ends up hating me. I think
> each of us is  
> a sovereign being and we must be true to ourselves and this
> often  
> means limiting compromise with girlfriends and wives. Did I
> mention  
> that Chris is my fourth wife?


*****Hah



> 
> Follow Davy Crockett's advice: be sure you're
> right, then go ahead.  
> Making decisions is your responsibility; no one can get
> inside your  
> brain and lead you to your right decision.



*********Davy Crockett got killed by a bunch of Mexicans





> >  Maybe I should try to find a place in a small
> progressive town.
> 
> Or at the outskirts. Bicycle distance, horseback distance,
> wagon  
> distance, car distance--it's a choice.
> 
> >  But, what I really want is to be completely off the
> radar.  I don't  
> > even want a G-d d*amn address ......bobf
> 
> Close to impossible. Go read the story on the Back Home
> Magazine web  
> site about the couple who bought a place on an unmarked
> road in  
> Colorado. It will be instructive to you.


*********8Please provide me with a link to the story, I went to the website 
andcouldn't find it.  Do you have to be a subscriber?  It is about the only 
mother earth type magazine to which I do no subscribe .....thanks.....bobford