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["Marie McHarry" <mmcharry AT gmail.com>]

On 11/22/06, rayzentz AT aim.com <rayzentz AT aim.com> wrote:
<< I don't know that I would agree with "they don't care".   However,
they most certainly are not involved, except when they perceive a
problem.   Then, most of the time, they like to place blame... usually
anyplace other than where it really belongs. >>

In my view, that's equivalent to not caring. If they aren't involved,
don't know what's going on, they don't care. A parent who cares what's
going on in her kid's school actually knows what's going on, which
makes it hard for them to place blame unless they're psychopathic
liars.

There are lots of disconnected parents amongst the middle class. Those
who aren't have successful kids, regardless. Why do you think those
Vietnamese and Cambodian immigrant kids who came into this country
when they were in the middle grades ended up as valedictorians of
their high school classes? Because Mom & Dad really cared and
supported their kids, is why.

During the 6 years that I taught in Chicago, I found that pretty much
all of my black students had kids in the city's parochial school
system, and they were on those kids to do their lessons. I wish I
could have started a survey, but I'm sure that it's not the system.
It's the parents.

Marie