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I can't wade through all this....Bev, I don't know if my ex would suit  
Lynn. I would love him to have a nice person who *would* suit him, and  
just on the basis of lifestyle and some of Lynn's opinions, they might  
be a good match. I was mostly kidding, though, as I am most of the  
time when I write.

I divorced him because he is an alcoholic. When I first met him, a  
starry eyed 18 yo with a bad case of hero worship, I thought an  
alcoholic was someone who hit their wives or crashed their cars and in  
general made a bad end of themselves. I had no idea someone could be a  
"functional alcoholic", and how big a problem that could be when it  
came to raising children together.

He hit bottom after I left and has been dry for a long time. AA and  
the whole bit.

He's still the person I loved, and married, though, and has been a  
good friend to me, and I to him, I think. He works like a dog, never  
whines, and really, all he needs is a pat on the head at the end of  
the day to feel like life is worthwhile. He's a good person. I want  
him to be happy. And, selfishly, whoever is with him has some  
influence on my kids and the wench he's been dating is a freaking  
loon. He has been holding her off, keeping it long distance and  
measured, but I'm afraid she will win the battle (moving in with him)  
by attrition. Right now he is working for my sister (still in  
Virginia) running her barn full time and the kids are not seeing  
enough of him. I tried to get him to come up here but we don't have  
seperate living quarters for him here, so, he's still down there.

Anyway, really, I was just kidding around a bit, since we were  
matchmaking like yentas. : )