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[Lynn Wigglesworth <lynnw1366 AT hotmail.com>]

paxamicus AT earthlink.net wrote:

> Do what I did. Marry a city boy and lure him to the dark side.

It didn't work for me. Brian was city born and raised. He agreed to move 
to the country, said he could be happy anywhere. He was immediately 
miserable here. We started a dairy (his idea), but he hated it so much 
that he moved out and left me with 2 young children and the dairy to 
run. I couldn't handle it alone, so after a few months shut it down. He 
left the area, got a job, got fired after a few months and eventually 
moved back here.

He was so depressed that he couldn't hold a job. We had no money, but he 
HAD to have therapy and expensive antidepressants. They didn't do 
anything for him (his problems are not something a pill can fix). He 
told everyone how much he hated it here, which of course didn't endear 
us to the locals. I was working as hard as I could to make the farm work 
and he was in the house sulking. I had to force/manipulate/drag/coerce 
him to do any little thing (including watch the kids so *I* could work). 
After a couple years of that, I finally had enough and kicked him out, 
then divorced him. He moved back to the city, where he still isn't 
happy. He recently told me that I didn't have a farm, I had a big vacant 
lot with a house on it. Same charmer he always was.

SO...I'm very skeptical about men in general, and would NEVER invite 
someone to live here who wasn't enthusiastic about all aspects of 
homesteading. There are worse things than being alone.

Lynn Wigglesworth
Tioga County, PA


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