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["Linda" <intuit AT teleport.com>]

If I may butt in?  Speaking of long distance boyfriends?  My husband passed
away almost 2 years ago, and I figured it's time to start living again or
I'd dry up and blow away. (kids were bugging me) so I got on line and joined
one of the meet a match .com clubs. I sure did!  I'd wake up each morning to
30 new messages- and to make a long story short, most of them turned out to
be crooked as heck or older than dirt!  What do *good* women like us do? How
do you meet a nice man who doesn't want to take everything you've worked so
hard for?    Linda: in NW WA
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Gloria Morris" <gloriamorris59 AT gmail.com>
To: <homestead AT lists.ibiblio.org>
Sent: Wednesday, November 22, 2006 10:18 AM
Subject: Re: [Homestead] Moving? - was Schooling issues


> Bev, I moved to MO to be with my boyfriend, with whom I had had a
> semi-long distance relationship -- ie, it was a fairly long drive to
> see each other, and we were burning up the highway to be with each
> other. Let's just say that when you live with someone you learn about
> their dark side in a way that is simply not possible from a distance.
> And, sometimes that dark side is darker than is good for you, and
> sometimes love is not enough. That's all I'd prefer to say about it.
>
> Thankfully, I did not quit my job. The commute has been long, but now
> seems well worth it. So, I'll be OK. I'm looking for a homestead now,
> and with any luck, I will get one that is well suited to me, and I
> will find it sooner rather than later.
>
> And now, for our more philosophical members who would care to correct
> my choice of language when I share a bit of hard news and ask for some
> positive thoughts in a way that doesn't fit with your paradigm, I
> simply have this to say:
>
> I think there is an element of chance in life - yes, there's an
> element of effort, and believe me I'm making every effort. However,
> will the right property be listed now, will I see that listing, etc.
> are, to a degree, elements of CHANCE. By CHANCE, I found this property
> that I hope to buy. I am putting in a bid based upon similar
> properties that have sold in the last year close by (a bid lower than
> the seller's asking price). Will they decide to sell at what would
> appear to be the market price? That is out of my control. Whether it
> is "luck" or "well wishes" or whatever that the Realtor is able to
> convince them about current market conditions and present realities is
> not a philosophical discussion I was really trying to launch. I am
> just hoping that somehow we can reach a mutually satisfying agreement
> about the homestead. So whether you wish me well, or "good luck," or
> send me prayers, or Reiki, or positive thoughts, or whatever other way
> of viewing life floats your individual boat, I believe there are
> things in life beyond our control. We can only control how we react to
> things that are beyond our control -- case in point, how I reacted to
> the tornadoes last spring was within my control, but what happened in
> the natural world around me was completely beyond my control.
> Similarly, I cannot control my boyfriend's behavior. I can, however,
> control my reaction to it. You all, of course, are free to disagree,
> free to criticize my beliefs, etc. It is a free country, for the
> moment, after all!
>
> Gloria
>
> On 11/22/06, EarthNSky <erthnsky AT bellsouth.net> wrote:
> >
> > Sorry to hear that, Gloria...can you share what happened?
> >
> > Bev
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