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[EarthNSky <erthnsky AT bellsouth.net>]

bobf wrote:
But, you are human, how many
> times over the past ten years has your wife suggested or have you
> desired, on your own, to slap him in the face with a 2' X 6' , so
> that he would quit causing the other guests to leave ?
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I believe the last time someone left it was due to a misunderstanding 
with me, not James.  I tried to make things right, but couldn't-it only 
made matters worse.  People will see what they want to see.  They will 
often look for excuses to leave (or join) or whatever.  I have come to 
believe that. Very often, it is easier to leave a group when you are 
angry, and that anger may be secretly of your own doing.... I can't be 
responsible for someone leaving the group if that is what they feel they 
need to do (to get away from me or James or you or whoever/whatever-the 
email distraction-found a better list, etc.)  I just try to do what 
seems to be the right thing. The last time I was angry and felt like 
walking out, I had to really examine my motives and ask what I was 
running from....I chose to stay and deal with it.

Funny these topics are coming up...centering, leaving..
I have said for a few months that I would probably disconnect around the 
first of the year.  I do feel a growing need to do that, to concentrate 
more on my health and personal life.  I have decided, however, not to 
leave the list, but to try to just lurk for a while-a few weeks or 
months or whatever it takes.  While I do need to center, I also need 
y'all's support.  So I'll be around, just hopefully quieter..Y'all carry 
on...

Bev

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"The world is my country, all mankind are my
 brethren, and to do good is my religion."
 Thomas Paine (1737 - 1809)