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["Lynn Wigglesworth" <lynnw1366 AT hotmail.com>]

> > Maybe I should just go after a strong man instead of building up my own 
> > muscles...I can bat my eyes and play the helpless female? Nobody who 
> > knows me would ever fall for that. :-)
>
> > Lynn Wigglesworth
> > Tioga Co. PA
>
> > From reading your posts I'd say you have much more to offer.  Any man who 
> > would go for the halpless female isn't worthy of you.
> Van Dell

Thanks. An amazing number of men are intimidated by a strong  woman (strong 
in any sense); the ones I've met seem to want weak, needy women. I dated a 
man who got mad if I didn't sit in the car and wait for him to come around 
and open my door, no matter how inconvenient it was. He said that opening my 
car door made him "feel like a man". Not the kind of man I'm looking for. 
Another guy I dated told me that he was afraid of me (I sure hope he was 
kidding!)...he told me that I was "too capable" and didn't need anything 
from him. My ex was just the opposite; he took full advantage of my 
strengths; he always needed something from me, but didn't help much. There 
must be a man somewhere not afraid of my competence but just as competent 
himself.

Lynn Wigglesworth