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["Wendy Gulliver" <crazygardens AT verizon.net>]

That's one of the "funny" things about me.  I can be stubborn and very 
opinionated. I love a good discussion or debate on just about anything. 
(Most of you all know this.)  When I'm around people of any gender and we 
are just kicking back and b.s.'ing I have no problems.  However, if I catch 
wind that some guy wants to explore a more serious relationship, the big 
thick wall goes up.  Heaven forbid, if somebody just walks up to me cold and 
asks me out.  It's all I can do not to run out the door.  On day my oldest 
daughter and I were in a mall store discussing the artistic and marketing 
pros/cons of a large display.  A man came up and joined in on the 
conversation.  We suddenly had to leave.  After we got out of earshot of the 
man the conversation went like this:

Mom, that man was hitting on you.
Yes, I know.
Mom, he seems very nice.
Yes, I know.
Mom, he's cute.
Yes, I know.
Mom, you're an ass.
Yes, I know.

That about sums it up.

Wendy



> From: <FranksFarm AT aol.com>
> > I'm wondering if our independence and mindset doesn't cause many
> breakups with partners not so attuned:)
>
> Yeah, it did for me. I find that I have the opposite problem than Wendy,
> who finds that men come on too strong. I have a hard time finding a man
> who is strong enough to deal with me. I'm opinionated and independent,
> although I don't try to push my opinions on other people...I don't really
> care what other people think. I won't be controlled, but don't want a man
> who lets me control him, either (my ex left all decisions up to me, but
> secretly resented whatever I decided and underhandedly worked against
> me...poster boy for passive aggressive). I think it would take a very
> self-confident man, and they seem to be in short supply!
>
> I'm physically pretty strong; I still can't quite lift 100#
> feedsacks...but I did carry 3  ~80 pound calves across the mudflat to my
> barn. I have way more stamina than some of the men I know...out of shape
> couch potatoes that they are. I've always been "one of the boys" and
> expected to carry my weight and fend for myself. I come across as way too
> self-sufficient and competant for men to understand that I am female and
> would appreciate a little pampering.
>
> I've been on one 'date' since my
> divorce, and that involved helping some guy look at outdoor furnaces. We
> ended up in a barnyard, measuring and crawling around in a huge nasty,
> dirty furnace (I meet the guy through Yahoo Personals, for cryin' out
> loud...this was a DATE!)...I'd like just ONE date where I don't have to
> shower off the soot/dirt/manure afterwards!
>
> I'm
> taking a Holistic Management workshop, and there are some really
> interesting men in it, but they are either married or WAY too young. I've
> stopped worrying about finding someone; if he's out there, he's got to
> find me.
>
> Lynn Wigglesworth
> Peasant Farmer
> Tioga County, PA
>
>
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