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[Robert Walton <waltonrp AT gmail.com>]

I think it's good that you plan what you want and then put it down on
paper and make sure that you've got agreement for those that will put
your plan in action. My grandmother got crazy a few years ago and
drove to town. Came back $6000 lighter in the purse, but had her
funeral planned out down to the music. I told her she was crazy. About
a year later my dad died unexpectedly. He was a character and our
relationship not so great. Left everything to his latest girlfriend
who said she didn't have enough $$ to pay for any thing.

For years, dad had said when he was dead, "cremate me and dump the
ashes in a dumpster". Brother and I were all for that (strained
relationship). Sister had a fit and wanted a service with a Baptist
preacher. I had enough respect for dad that I nixed that idea and went
for a visitation, but no funeral. Was really weird for us and the
guests. Sister had the ashes buried near his mother's headstone. I
held out for the dumpster, cause I really think that he'd have got a
kick out of that.

Anyway, after all that, I called grandma and told her that even though
I think she's nuts for spending so much money on her funeral, it's her
money and I'm really glad that she had the wisdom to take care of all
those decisions for the people she leaves. I then talked to mom and
her husband and let them know that they had better make plans ahead.

Planning ahead is what you want to do if it's important to you. Dad
thought that it was crazy to spend a lot of money on disposing of a
body, but I had to fit tooth and nail to not have his body embalmed
before cremating it.

OMG need to make some plans!

Rob - Va

On Fri, Oct 1, 2010 at 9:31 AM, roxann <roxann AT ancientearthwisdom.com> wrote:
> Bev,
>
> If you have moving water, I think a really nice ritual would be releasing a
> thought of you on a leaf boat, or any other small biodegradeable 'boat'.
> The thoughts could be written on a snip of paper, folded and placed on top.
> If someone knew origami, I'll bet a little boat can be made.
>
>
> I like the non-traditional funerals, too. And life-celebrations, too.
>
>
> Roxann, NW AR
> http://blog.ancientearthwisdom.com (Ozark Musings from the homestead)
>
>
>        -------Original Message-------
> From: EarthNSky
> To: Homestead List
> Subject: [Homestead] thinking about death
> Sent: Oct 01 '10 1:15am
>
> ------snip------
>
> Has anyone planned their own 'funeral'?
> Does anyone have any other secular or non-traditional  ideas?  Pagan
> rites?  Buddhist chants?  poems?
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