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["roxann" <roxann AT ancientearthwisdom.com>]

Cathy,

When my parents need me, if short term, I will suspend everything and go to 
help them. If long term, then I expect they will move up here with me and 
I'll help that way. If I have to keep a job and help, then I can't quit and 
move down there excpet for whatever time FMLA allows. 

If one of my children, or my husband should he get sick and need it, would be 
one reason I WOULD sell all and do whatever I can. but i'd likely sell it to 
my son, or work something out. 

even if my husband decides to live down south, at this point we are not 
discussing divorce. we may just have to have separate full-time residences 
and meet somewhere in the middle whenever we can. or, it may not work out. 
but it certainly won't work out if i left this dream just because he's not 
wanting it anymore, now that we're here. i'd resent him so much i couldn't 
stand to be in the room with him, let alone be married to him. I've been 
working and supporting the family for more than 7 years, giving him time to 
'find his niche' in life and do his thing. I would have followed his dream if 
he'd had one, but since he didn't, I followed mine and he followed me. He's 
free to leave if this isn't his thing, because it surely is mine, and perhaps 
we've come upon an issue that can't be resolved easily...

I didn't want you to have the wrong idea about me, and think I'm just being 
selfish.

Roxann, NW AR
http://blog.ancientearthwisdom.com (Ozark Musings from the homestead)

 -------Original Message-------
 From: Cathy <goosecreekfarm AT gmail.com>
 Subject: Re: [Homestead] was: More on Gold now: knowing up front
 Sent: 01 Jan '09 00:41
 
 I guess that makes me less than tough--I've put a couple of things (people)
 before my homestead-y dreams.  As a matter of fact, I'm still putting my
 nearly-grown children ahead, since they're influencing where I try again.
 
 Did any of you tough women get post-divorce pressure from your family to
 return "home"?  My mom would really like me to take care of her in her
 suburbs...
 
 Cathy