To: bobford79 AT yahoo.com, homestead AT lists.ibiblio.org
Subject: Re: [Homestead] Now BS..long BS
Date: Fri, 02 Jan 2009 17:30:57 -0500
bobf wrote:
But, you are human, how many
times over the past ten years has your wife suggested or have you
desired, on your own, to slap him in the face with a 2' X 6' , so
that he would quit causing the other guests to leave ?
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I believe the last time someone left it was due to a misunderstanding
with me, not James. I tried to make things right, but couldn't-it only
made matters worse. People will see what they want to see. They will
often look for excuses to leave (or join) or whatever. I have come to
believe that. Very often, it is easier to leave a group when you are
angry, and that anger may be secretly of your own doing.... I can't be
responsible for someone leaving the group if that is what they feel they
need to do (to get away from me or James or you or whoever/whatever-the
email distraction-found a better list, etc.) I just try to do what
seems to be the right thing. The last time I was angry and felt like
walking out, I had to really examine my motives and ask what I was
running from....I chose to stay and deal with it.
Funny these topics are coming up...centering, leaving..
I have said for a few months that I would probably disconnect around the
first of the year. I do feel a growing need to do that, to concentrate
more on my health and personal life. I have decided, however, not to
leave the list, but to try to just lurk for a while-a few weeks or
months or whatever it takes. While I do need to center, I also need
y'all's support. So I'll be around, just hopefully quieter..Y'all carry
on...
Bev
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"The world is my country, all mankind are my
brethren, and to do good is my religion."
Thomas Paine (1737 - 1809)