I'll answer within your message. My answers will be marked with asteriks: bobford
--- On Fri, 10/24/08, Gene GeRue <genegerue AT ruralize.com> wrote:
From: Gene GeRue <genegerue AT ruralize.com>
Subject: He thinks he's country; she sounds city
To: bobford79 AT yahoo.com, homestead AT lists.ibiblio.org
Date: Friday, October 24, 2008, 5:17 PM
On Oct 24, 2008, at 3:20 PM, bob ford wrote:
> Gene, I have a serious question. Missouri is
beautiful, water is
> plentiful, land is reasonably priced. But, the land
that interests
> me is always in out-of-the-way places, like Zanoni.
I need to know more about you before I invite you into the
Zanoni
area. Did I mention that my neighbor-buddy is six-four, as
are his two
strapping sons? Did I mention that we all have big guns and
know how
to use them? We also have dogs.
*****I was using Zanoni as an example :-)
But I digress. We are really sweet people.
>
> What do you do for culture?
I make my own culture; I read, write, design, garden,
landscape,
build, travel the world via the Internet. Chris and I
listen to music,
watch DVDs and talk to each other. We visit friends and
relatives and
they visit us.
> My wife has lived in the city her entire life. Where
would she
> make friends with other women.
That is up to her but I would think in places that have
activities of
interest to her.
******That is the problem. some of her friends here have been her firend for thirty years --well there are only two left, and both of them are thinking of moving away. She knows people from Church ( she doesn't attend , but has been a member of St. Mary's Basilica for over 50 years.
Her friends here are all through contacts she has made over a lifetime
> I can stay alone, if left alone to my own devices,
and not care.
> My wife goes to strabucks, and to the museums. She is
not as bad as
> many women, but, I just can't see her being happy
without a group of
> women friends with which to do stuff.
I don't think what you described is bad. She sounds
like a pretty
normal city woman.
Does she love you enough to follow you to a remote place?
******I don't know what "love" is , Gene. I'm too old for that concept between man and woman,. We are comfortable together, we are compatable, and we care for each other. Yes, she would move with me. But, would she be happy once she is moved.
Do you love her enough to be happy with a few acres within
a few miles
of a town that has what she wants?
Have the two of you each made your own criteria lists and
then
compared them and talked about what compromises you are
willing to make?
******She says she wants women friends, and a close enough drive to bookstores, libraries, etc. The second part will not be hard. The first is my worry
> I own a piece of land near willow springs. I'm
looking at another
> piece, now. But, I'm not sure I,m being
realistic.
I got paid big money for moving idealistic dreams to
reality. It is a
huge job and usually the wife ends up hating me. I think
each of us is
a sovereign being and we must be true to ourselves and this
often
means limiting compromise with girlfriends and wives. Did I
mention
that Chris is my fourth wife?
*****Hah
Follow Davy Crockett's advice: be sure you're
right, then go ahead.
Making decisions is your responsibility; no one can get
inside your
brain and lead you to your right decision.
*********Davy Crockett got killed by a bunch of Mexicans
> Maybe I should try to find a place in a small
progressive town.
Or at the outskirts. Bicycle distance, horseback distance,
wagon
distance, car distance--it's a choice.
> But, what I really want is to be completely off the
radar. I don't
> even want a G-d d*amn address ......bobf
Close to impossible. Go read the story on the Back Home
Magazine web
site about the couple who bought a place on an unmarked
road in
Colorado. It will be instructive to you.
*********8Please provide me with a link to the story, I went to the website andcouldn't find it. Do you have to be a subscriber? It is about the only mother earth type magazine to which I do no subscribe .....thanks.....bobford
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