[Homestead] Give up the dream? My dilemma

Lynn Wigglesworth lynnw1366 at hotmail.com
Sun Nov 23 11:47:57 EST 2008


> << I can't imagine selling off my horses, chickens and dogs. I just
> can't imagine not being here. But I also can't imagine how lonely it
> might be if my kids AND my husband left. Well, I can imagine that
> easier than leaving. And that's the problem. What kind of person does
> it make me if I'm willing to let them go without me? >>
>
> And then there's the other question, What kind of people does that
> make them? The kids, of course, had not much choice in the move, but
> your husband did. Not liking it doesn't make him a bad person, but
> liking it doesn't make you one either.

Roxann; I agree with Marie on this. Your husband must have decided to move 
there at one time. HE'S the one who changed his mind. I lived in the city 
with my ex for 17 years on the agreement that we would move to the country 
eventually and do what I wanted. When we did, he was immediately miserable 
and made everyone miserable. I don't feel the least bit guilty that he 
didn't like it here; I didn't like the city, either. Ignore people who try 
to 'guilt' you...my own mother tells me that I "chased" my husband away, so 
I deserve any nasty thing that happens to me. You just learn to ignore it.

Lynn Wigglesworth
Tioga Co. PA 




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